ghdos:

We can be all “it’s her body” and all that good stuff until a baby is produced. When that happens, whether the father wanted it or not doesn’t seem to matter. I have to just deal with whatever she decides? Really? So if I’m against the abortion and she isn’t, I’m an asshole. If I’m for the…

Totally not a woman but but I wanted to speak on this from the feminist work I have read. 

If two people are in a relationship neither of them own each other. 

A pregnancy is usually something women get killed for depending on the guy and the situation. 

It’s one thing if we were just two people having sex with no emotional attatchment. I’m talking about she and I have been together for two years type of shit.

even then.If the pregnancy was something yall both planned and were aiming for then of course if she is having second thoughts she should tell you her reasons why. but you shouldnt try to force a woman to have your baby either. 

She just goes and gets an abortion without telling me and that’s just cool? No fucks given? That’s fucking insane.

She not killing a human being. and abortions hurt like hell. Its a hard decision to make and black women never really have to best circumstances to make those decisions in the 1st place. 

Futhermore ithe guy doesnt want the baby and she decides to have it anyway…the guy should just give up parental rights. I dont believe in guilt shaming black men for getting women pregnant. The only time when that is necessary is when men father more children without participating within those children’s lives. and even then I am on the fence with criticism

Personally i think people shouldnt have sex until they can emotionally handle what the hell is going on.  I’ve heard stories of black men and women experiencing sex younger and younger this has really got to stop! (I am talking molestation and sexual abuse within the black community something different from policing black sexuality.